I Feel Inadequate Next To This Man

I am a serial “unsubscriber”. If you want my email address to stay on your list, you need to either be f*cking brilliant and generous with your wisdom, or you need to be offering me a ridiculous deal. One of the few lists I stay on (that falls into the brilliant category) belongs to Mark Manson. In fact, as I write this entry in my own blog I can't help but feel woefully inadequate. The way Mark cuts through the bullshit we consume (and occasionally produce) as we move through this life is simply brilliant. I am not being compensated in any way for saying this. Judge for yourself. Here are some of the best quotes from his last two blog posts on The Virtue of Doubt and The Hidden Costs of Happiness:

On Doubt & Super Beliefs

"Super Beliefs are beliefs that are so big and abstract that they encompass all other beliefs and experiences that could potentially contradict them. As a result, Super Beliefs cannot be proven or disproven, since all experience falls under their umbrella…
'Something is only true if there is evidence to support it,' is another Super Belief. 'God has a plan for everyone,' is another. 'We are all spiritually connected and one with the universe,' is another...

The only true Super Belief is that no Super Belief is completely true. That is, the only certainty is that nothing is certain.
Doubt today is more important than ever. With ever-dwindling attention available for each issue, with a glut of information and contrary information available, with the ease in which the internet allows us to surround ourselves with only those who agree with us, the ability to hold onto doubt will become a virtue in our 21st-century society. It will distinguish those who are able to reason and synthesize information from those who will lash out and go with the day’s biggest trend. It will differentiate those who can find their own way in a sea of opportunity and haze of information and those who drown in the digital noise."

On The Hidden Costs of Happiness

“- You must accept imperfection and flaws
- You must take responsibility for your problems
- You must feel the fear and do it anyway
- You must find a deeper purpose to your actions
- You must be willing to fail and be embarrassed”

Both are highly recommended reading. That is all.

Radical Niceness: Our Results

As my family squeezed into place for the overnight flight to Buenos Aires I made sure to tap all of our seat neighbors on the shoulder and give them one of our tiny care packages (a pair of ear plugs, a Hershey's Kiss and a brief note explaining that this was Adrian's first flight). Without exception they were super-gracious and most of them got to chatting with one another after I turned away.
"What a great idea!"
One of them insisted that I had stumbled upon a brilliant business opportunity. The trio of Argentine Orthodox men seated behind us even peeked over to get a look at our baby and played peek-a-boo with him for what seemed like a half hour. Adrian was all smiles. The most interesting reaction we had was from the flight crew, who gathered one by one in the back of the plane discreetly enjoying the Hershey's Kisses and proclaiming our little experiment "the nicest thing we've ever seen a passenger do". At least two of them Instagramed photos of our plastic packets.
After all that Adrian slept for almost the entire flight and never even cried! Still the good vibes help make the flight that much more relaxing. All in all we made 100 packets for four flights - at a cost of less than $20. We ended up using less than 50 so we're already stocked for summer vacation. LA here we come!

Have An OCD Mind-gasm (Or Two)

The sweet lord of OCD has blessed me on this day. My first mindgasm struck when Martha Stewart taught me that I can organize my many sets of Airbnb bed sheets simply by folding them up and storing them inside a pillowcase! I stood in silent awe as the full force of this discovery washed over me.

The second was when I realized that there is without doubt  an optimal way to install shower curtain rings. I'm not even gonna tell you what it is. I'm gonna make you make you guess what it is. Because clicks! Because "engagement"!

#iamthemostboringpersoniknow #isthiswhatpeopledoonblogs? #seriouslythoughpleaseguess


An Experiment in Radical Niceness

NYC I'm a baby hater. Always have been - at least until nine months ago when this guy was born. As I write this my family and I are minutes away from boarding a red-eye flight from New York to Buenos Aires and incurring all kinds of sideways looks. I am about to become the traveling parent I have spent my whole life hating. Karma's a bitch.

So what happens if I preempt the cosmic forces of baby-hating karma by giving out earplugs and chocolates with sweet notes attached to anyone seated nearby? Will the passengers treat us better than I expect? Will the flight attendants go out of their way to help us out? We're about to find out...

WTF was I thinking?

The last eight months have been tough. Ever since Adrian was born sleep and productive time have been in short supply. I forget/lose my valuables on average four times a week. Last Saturday I woke up I woke up in a funk - but I desperately wanted to turn things around and enjoy a rare day with my in-laws.

This Valentine's Day happened to have been the coldest in NYC history. What better opportunity to 1) get myself out of a bad mood 2) provide a nice bonus for you, my newest subscriber?! Special thanks to my in laws, Margaret and Enrique for their assistance in creating that last video. I couldn't have done it with out you!